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The Solidarity of Grief and Grace

September 13, 2021 By Carolyn Parr 10 Comments

Like many of my fellow Americans, I’ve been deeply moved this month by so many stories and photos and interviews recalling the terrorist attacks on our country twenty years ago. But perhaps what moved me most – to my own surprise and wonder – was the speech by former President George W. Bush at Shanksville, Pennsylvania. You can read it here. 

He praised the courage of passengers and crew on Flight 93, who brought the hijacked airplane down, losing their own lives but saving the terrorists’ probable intended target, the United States Capitol.

President Bush was eloquent. His language was often lyrical, always tough and true. “The world was loud with carnage and sirens, and then quiet with missing voices that would never be heard again.” He spoke of horror – “the audacity of evil” – and “the solidarity of grief and grace” rising to face “the brute randomness of death.”

Other speakers praised the bravery of first responders who died saving people in the towers. The day was thick with grief – we heard stories of widows and their children who grew up without a father. Survivors still wonder why they escaped and friends were lost. But no one else I heard dared to address the spiritual challenges raised by so much pain. President Bush did.

He acknowledged there is no simple explanation for unearned suffering. “All that many could hear was God’s terrible silence.” He didn’t offer an explanation or solution. Then this: “But comfort can come from a different sort of knowledge. After wandering long and lost in the dark, many have found they were actually walking, step by step, toward grace.”

A cynic could say, “He has a good speech writer.” Yes, but Bush has a reputation for telling his speechwriters what he wants to say. These remarks seem too personal, vulnerable even, not to have come from the speaker’s own tough conversation with his Maker. And I suspect it’s still going on.

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Comments

  1. Roy Parker says

    September 23, 2021 at 11:01 am

    I can imagine these are similar to the thoughts you and Jerry had at that time.
    George Bush, as all of us, is not perfect , but in his heart I believe he is a very caring person and a Godly Man.

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    • Carolyn Parr says

      September 23, 2021 at 1:38 pm

      Thank you, Roy. Yes, Jerry would have agreed with Bush (and you).

      Reply
  2. Dixcy Bosley says

    September 23, 2021 at 11:20 am

    Bush’s message was a sermon to me and the ways he connected the dots of 9/11/01 and 1/6/21. For all the years of opposing his policies, the speech in Shanksville was redemptive.

    Reply
    • Carolyn Parr says

      September 23, 2021 at 1:35 pm

      Thanks for your response, Dixcy. I agree. We need to believe in redemption.

      Reply
  3. Reba Raffaelli says

    September 23, 2021 at 12:38 pm

    I read both post regarding 9-11 and they were thoughtful and beautiful.

    Reply
    • Carolyn Parr says

      September 23, 2021 at 1:33 pm

      Thank you, Reba. Good to hear from you!

      Reply
  4. Rosy Cauterucci says

    September 24, 2021 at 6:08 am

    How wonderful and never too old or to late to remember the meaning of the word redemption.it always leads to hope.
    Thank you

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    • Carolyn Parr says

      September 27, 2021 at 1:58 pm

      Thanks, Rosy. Yes, there’s always hope for all of us.

      Reply
  5. Julia C. Fitzpatrick says

    September 24, 2021 at 12:31 pm

    Thanks, Carolyn, for mentioning Bush’s speech. I had watched the video again on the 20th anniversary and felt very sad afterwards. I agree with you that the speech was very moving and compassionate, no matter who or how it was put together. However, It’s painful to recall that Bush then took us into war with Iraq. Good men can also do terrible things.

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    • Carolyn Parr says

      September 27, 2021 at 1:56 pm

      Julia, This is sad but true. Thanks for that reminder.

      Reply

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